Saturday, March 21st, 2015 09:00 am
It's the first day of spring and yesterday we had 16°C.

So, naturally, it's snowing.

Friday, March 20th, 2015 07:31 am
The husband and I got the keys to our new home yesterday and saw it by light of day for the first time.

The landlord is a really nice older lady (well, also her husband, but he doesn't get many words in...) and she was rather distressed. The previous tenants have not been good to the floors and garden and they didn't clean properly and apparently they are now also being rude about her objections and so she's considering legal options.

We are still in love with the place, but there is going to be a lot to do the next weeks. The owners are already looking for workers to get the most important things (floors and walls) done, and she's trying to get the garden in shape herself, but, well, she's over 70 and the former renter is refusing to pay and thus might get messy, so we are preparing to do some of this ourselves so we can move in soon.

And who the fuck thinks that it's okay to write an email on February 27 like "while the lease ends tomorrow, our new house isn't finished yet, so we are staying until March 8". The heck? And then they didn't even want to pay another half month of rent?

There's some good stuff, though, the garden is bigger than I remembered and there's lots of windows, so once all is done it's going to be really pretty.
Thursday, March 19th, 2015 11:38 pm
A while back a friend said something about risk aversion, and I asked them about it.

There's a setup where you get given two choices. One choice means you'll definitely get £"x". The other means you'll have a "y"% choice of getting £"z", and if you don't you'll get nothing.

This showed me I am very risk-averse. If you ask me to choose between a definite £5 and a 25% chance of £100, I'm still going to choose the £5 because that's my lunch, dammit. For most amounts of money I won't take the bet unless the odds are better than evens. I suppose everyone has a set of heuristics like that, and this is mine.

There have been times when I've worked around these heuristics on purpose-- you may remember the business about Växjö. But that was merely a workaround; it didn't change the heuristics.

I was thinking yesterday that this explains a lot about why I usually don't enter poetry competitions or submit work to journals: the cost of entry is rarely worth the chance of payoff. "Cost of entry" here might include money, but always includes the manual and mental work needed to prepare and submit, the anxiety about not getting it right, and (if simultaneous submissions aren't allowed) losing the ability to use a particular poem for the next four months. And the payoff is small, and the chance of getting it isn't great. So mostly I don't bother.

See also: applying for jobs, asking people on dates, etc, etc.
Wednesday, March 18th, 2015 06:10 pm
So, I am watching "Parenthood" and I am up to 3x16 (Tough Love). I love a lot about this series, but at this point, I have just about had it with Kristina (and Adam, but mostly with Kristina).

Read more... )
Wednesday, March 18th, 2015 06:19 am
You know the universe is laughing at you a bit too much when your painkillers make you get horrible headaches.


And I really wanted to return to work today...

(At least, I hope that's what causing the headaches. Then they'll disappear when I stop taking my meds)
Monday, March 16th, 2015 12:27 am
Tonight's code push is now complete! As always, please report any issues here.

(We're particularly interested in issues with HTTPS browsing; we're getting closer to ironing out all the bugs, but we know it's still not perfect.)

EDIT: If you're not getting the inline reply form -- if you're getting redirected to another page to comment -- please clear your cache and then restart your browser.

PLEASE NOTE: If you're coming to report an entry in your journal not displaying properly, and there's a <table> in the entry (or you're reporting a problem with your journal displaying properly and there's an entry with a <table> somewhere visible on the page): please check the entry's source and make sure the HTML of the table is constructed properly. We've made a change to our HTML cleaner to be more strict about missing tags and tags that were closed in a different order than they were opened. Most of the display problems people have reported have been because a table in an entry was missing closing </td>/</tr>tags!
Sunday, March 15th, 2020 11:06 pm
some things to know about me:

* I may be wrong and often am. If I am, I would like to know, and learn better. But...
* I hate conflict. If you are rude, aggressive, hostile, ridiculing, I'll probably not talk to you.
* I am aware that I am privileged in many ways; if I show unchecked privilege, I appreciate hearing about it and I promise to take it seriously. I expect the same from you.
* Autonomy is important. I would like to hear your stories rather than tell my own. But if your behaviour involves nonconsensual damage to others, especially children, I am unlikely to be sympathetic (to put it mildly). Anti-vaccination people are specifically included here as people who damage children.
* I love hugs and cuddles, but please don't touch me without asking.
* If I have a panic attack, please hang around. Afterwards I will probably go and hide somewhere for a bit, and then I probably won't cope too well with people talking to me.
* If I'm occupied with nothing but my phone in public, that's probably a way of hiding.
* I hate phone calls. I hate making them, and I hate receiving them. Text or email instead, unless it's urgent, or you've arranged it otherwise. (To my parents: yes, you count as having arranged otherwise. But I still prefer email.)
* My pronouns are they/them, though zie/zir is fine too, and other pronouns are all right where I'm not out as genderqueer. If you get it wrong, that's fine. But don't get it wrong on purpose.
* Do not shout at me. Ever.
* I like reconciliation. If we were friends in the past, I probably want to be friends again. There are a very few exceptions, but you know who you are.
* I like vegetarian food, but I'll eat some kinds of meat if that's all that's available. I'm allergic to uncooked egg (and this includes scrambled eggs, for some reason). Eggs in things like cake are fine. Actually, cake is lovely in general.
* I have a bad habit of avoiding dealing with things I don't know how to handle, especially emails I don't know how to answer. In particular, I love getting fanmail, but I'm rather bad at answering it. I'm really sorry: I'm working on it. I do read it all, and it does make me happy, and I love you all.
* Please don't assume I can pick up on hints, or flirting, or that I know any particular social conventions about conversations; please be explicit. If there's something you can't or don't want to talk about, I will pick it up and worry about it if you lie about the things round the edges in inconsistent ways. I really like it when people talk to me about how they want to talk to me and how I want to talk to them.
* I'll try to add trigger warnings to posts and pictures. Again, if I get it wrong, let me know.
* I have triggers of my own. I may have to leave a conversation because of them. It's a PTSD thing.
* Reciting poetry and singing and scripting/echolalia are coping habits.
* I apologise too much. I'm working on it.

Did I miss anything? Questions and comments and suggestions are welcome.
Sunday, March 15th, 2015 02:09 pm
This is the first run of our new code tour generator - it seems to be including more issues that were closed without code changes, and I tried to edit out most of those, but I expect the ride might be extra bumpy. Please make sure your seat belts are fastened and keep your hands inside the vehicle at all times.

Also, this tour is full of tons of boring backend changes and I wasn't able to find much humor in them, so the writeup will be less entertaining than usual. I do apologize and will not be offended if you decide to skip this tour and wait for a more interesting one. However, if you are willing to brave the ride, you will discover a few fascinating features, such as support for multiple sticky posts and a redesign of the new tag navigation feature. Also you will find your journey is more secure, as this code push will bring support for HTTPS everywhere on the site.


Sunday, March 15th, 2015 09:29 am
Actual conversation on this Sunday morning. (only in German, of course)

Husband: So, when did you clean the kitchen yesterday evening? I didn't notice.

Me: At 2:30 tonight.


Me: Yeah, I think I was asleep at 3:15.

Husband: *cuddles, makes me breakfast and coffee*

Oh insomnia, how I have missed you.
Sunday, March 15th, 2015 01:29 am
This past week has been... not good. I'm not ready to talk about it yet, so I will focus on other things.

Today I celebrated Pi Day by taking the kids to the McWane Center for the first time in several months. They had a new special exhibit called Mindbender Mansion, which was kind of like a mini Mystery Hunt with physical puzzles. Some of the puzzles gave you clues to open video "vaults" which contained passwords, and if you collected all the passwords, you got added to their Wall of Fame. Will and I had a lot of fun with it. Connor was less interested, but managed to keep himself amused. I also convinced the boys, with much begging and pleading, to sit with me through NASA's latest IMAX film, "Journey to Space", which combined older shuttle footage with information about plans for future Mars missions. It didn't have the visceral thrill I remembered from the older NASA films, but it was fun and educational.

Speaking of movies, I was excited to learn that they made an animated film based on "The True Meaning of Smekday" - it's called "Home" and it will be released in two weeks. I'm reading the book to the kids before we go see it. I might go see the new Cinderella film tomorrow with Heather, but the boys aren't interested, and I can't really say I blame them.

I submitted a talk proposal for OSB. I don't know if it will be accepted, but at least I tried. I'm sure I'll end up going to the conference whether I'm invited to give the talk or not.

Connor's school is having their Living Museum presentation on Tuesday. You may remember this from a couple of years ago when Will got to dress up as Samuel Morse. I'm planning on using the same vest to dress Connor up as Wilbur Wright, although I need to add side panels to adjust it for his extra girth - luckily I kept the leftover fabric for that purpose. I also found a cheap newsboy cap on Amazon which will really set it off, I think.
Saturday, March 14th, 2015 06:12 pm
FYI -- We're scheduling a code push for Sunday 9PM PDT / Monday 12AM EDT / 4AM GMT.

Should be fun! We'll have another post up when we're about to start.
Saturday, March 14th, 2015 05:40 am
Bugland and I wrote two lines last night.  :-/
Saturday, March 14th, 2015 11:10 am
I watched the first 1.5 hours of The Wolf of Wall Street yesterday. Am I missing something fundamental if I just find it boring?

So far it's mostly people doing dumb and unethical stuff and lots of tits'n'ass and I just find what little story there is boring. Some parts are an okay satire, yeah, but those are far and far between in my opinion.

What did those of you who watched it think?

(I know this is based on a memoir, but just judging it based on its own merits - it just doesn't hold my interest at all)